My memory is a bit fuzzy on some of the minor details because it happened probably 20 years ago; probably more.
For instance, I’m thinking I was in my late 20’s and she was 35. But, I may have been 30; or early 20’s for that matter.
I never thought ages were that important, another reason for the vagueness.
However, the sentiment is accurate.
I first saw her while shopping for groceries in my local, Long Island King Kullen. Hampton Bays to be exact.
She had long wavy dark hair and just the kind of proportions and curves I like.
I can also tell you exactly what she was wearing; black leather pants and a tight white sweater top that exposed her belly.
Not exactly your typical go-to-market wear, but…
Have you ever seen those old cartoons where the dog or wolf sees a pretty woman then goes cuckoo for coco puffs? His tongue falls out, steam comes out of his ears and body parts twist in circles.
That’s about what happened to me except it was all going on inside.
I thought she was crazy gorgeous.
I followed her through the isles putting shit in my basket that I didn’t want or need.
…trying my best to appear like I wasn’t stalking her.
I knew I had to talk to her but I was nervous about doing so.
What would I say?
What if she said no?
Back then I still got nervous talking to women. Now I just behave like I’m 5 years old and walk up, say my name and ask if she wants to be friends or play with me.
So, before my basket started to overflow I talked myself into talking to her.
Nothing good was going to happen from not talking to her.
And, if she said “no”, at least I tried and I wouldn’t have to live with the regret of not asking.
I made my approach, big smile and doing my best to muster confidence
I’ve been shot down by better…
Well, maybe not, but I certainly have been shot down before. Although mostly at clubs, not the supermarket.
I still didn’t know what I was going to say, but usually something comes out…
So, I said “My name’s Bill and I just had to introduce myself because you are so gorgeous”.
She smiled gratefully and said “thank you, thank you so much for saying so”.
She went on to say that she was married but yesterday was her birthday, she just turned 35 and was sensitive about her age and looks.
Maybe that was the reason for the sexy leather pants and short sweater outfit?
She told me that I made her day by talking to her and she was so grateful I did so.
We talked for a few minutes but I walked away never so happy being rejected.
I don’t think I was ever rejected so gracefully and kindly.
So much so that I can recall this memory from 20 plus years ago so clearly.
I know many are afraid to talk to strangers, especially when you are young because we’re wrongly taught that strangers may be dangerous.
We’re also taught to protect our egos. Truly dangerous.
Now, I talk to strangers a lot.
Young, old, pretty, men, women – it doesn’t matter.
I’ve met so many amazing people It’s unbelievable to me.
I’ve created a reality where everyone I meet is super kind, helpful and interesting.
I expect it.
I could tell you a million stories to substantiate the truth of this claim.
It could be your reality too.
It takes some time to replace your fears, but once you do, you stop finding what you are afraid of and whatever you want manifests instead.
I designed a whole course to teach you how to overcome the thoughts and beliefs that are sabotaging your dreams and how to create whatever you want to have, experience or feel.
Anyone can do it too.
It’s way simple.
Once you read through the course your perspective on life will never be the same.
You will gain so much clarity and confidence you won’t recognize yourself.
So, I guess the point of this story is that if you are ever afraid to talk to someone that interests you, conquer your fear head on and even if you get rejected, it may become your favorite time you got rejected and an extremely positive memory you cherish for the rest of your life.
About William Cassidy
William Cassidy is an Spiritual Guide and Mindset Coach who specializes in self realization, mind mastery and conscious creation.
Check out Bill's Ultimate Mind, Body and Spirit Fitness System: Greater Powered.